i’m 26 yrs old & my bf is 28 yrs old. I’m studying for a medical degree(MD) now & he just studied till junior high school (study till 15 yrs old). We already 3 years of being gf & bf. He’s a nice guy, always care bout me & down to earth. We get along well & there’s no major problem between us now. My parents at 1st disagree with our relationship,but now reconsidering again since i love him so much. They keep warning me that there will surely be problems in understandings in future, because the same situations happened to them,my mum is higher educated than my dad & they quarrel a lot. Sometimes,it really freaks me out. When i said to them that we really can get along, my dad says it’s just because we are staying far (long-distance relationship) & haven’t face the real problems yet. What u think? Any experiences?or ur frens experiences? kindly share ur opinion.thank u.
sory,i think i wrongly type that topic. My Q should be:
Does lower education leads to a bad marriage life?
sory,i think i wrongly type that topic. My Q should be:
Does lower education leads to a bad marriage life?
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It is not about the education it is about the person. I’ve dated men with Master Degrees who are jerks and others with no post education who were sweethearts. The main thing is that your boyfriend is hard working and honest. Doesn’t matter how much money he brings back home if he’s proud of what he does for living and loves it he will be a nice and interesting man to be around.
If your boyfriend doesn’t work and just goes from job to job and has not stability, that’s a different story.
ADD: Yes education is important. It’s important for YOU to get yourself an education.
.People are more often drawn to those with similar education backgrounds, goals, ambitions….but not always. Only you and he can decide if this disparity will be an issue or not. Are you okay with it? Will you ever think less of him because you will have a college education and be a doctor and he didn’t get through high school? Will he feel bad about himself because he didn’t finish his education and you went on to get a degree and more?
His options for jobs will be limited so how much you do expect him to contribute to the household finances? That’s something else to think about.If you two are dating long distance it could be that the reality of your relationship isn’t there because you don’t know each other as well as you should.
The upside is, that divorce exists for a reason and if you do choose to marry and find it wasn’t the best choice, you can always go your separate ways. For me personally, I’d prefer someone with a college education. I’m not sure how much I’d have in common with a junior high drop out.
Good luck!
I think its amazing that someone who doesn’t speak English as their first language was able to move to a new country and not only develop an almost functional English ability but get into Med School!
If you can overcome that you can overcome a long distance relationship. You father is half right, you haven’t fully experienced what its like to be in a real relationship with your boyfriend. Make him move to you and see how it goes, it might work out. Stay in school, it doesn’t matter to a relationship but I imagine it matters to you.
In the greater scheme of things, education usually means a better paying job. That can often eliminate one stress point in a marriage (money issues). As to the particulars of a woman being higher educated than a man and having a better job…it CAN be a problem at times. Why? Because men crave respect & admiration which is hard to achieve while your wife shows you up. In other words, it can be emasulating.
Imagine going to a party at your Hospital (you now being a Dr.) and some other Dr. asks your husband “So, what do you do?” Ya, it takes a real strong guy NOT to feel belittled & less than a man in this position (and when that happens, the guy tries to become controlling etc. to prove HE is the “man”).
No, but size matters.
Education DOES matter. Regardless how much you love each other now, your bf will eventually feel inferior as compared to you because he is less educated, and hence, will be less successful. You will also eventually feel that he is not good enough for you. This will impair your relationship at the end of the day.
I have experienced that before (I am a graduate and my ex husband is only junior school), so did many of the women I know. That is why we divorced our husbands. Now I am engaged to a very well-educated man who is very successful, smart and rich. We are both very happy together and I never regret my decision leaving my not good enough ex-husband (who also has many undesirable characteristics as well).
An advice to every woman – Always marry a man of at least equal status as you, if not more. NEVER EVER marry a man who is beneath you.
Marrying on equal standing are more likely to last much longer and happier.
Depends on the people involved in the relationship. Because there are some couples where one party has more education and understand things on one level. While their partner is more street smart and have skills in another way and understand things a bit differently. But between the two of them they have enough experiences to work things out in their relationship without education really being a major hang up for them. But with other couples, education could be a real obstacle if neither party values street smarts or the other person’s life experiences all that much and they would not share a common ground. If that happens that also speaks of their values too. So I think when you do spend time with your guy face to face, find out what his values are and see if they match with what you are after. If not then you have a bigger issue than just education that could end your relationship.
The only time education matters is when one person thinks that they are better than the other because of it and treat them that way.
They are those with higher education who wont care about you and treat you right.This guy cares about you and he is down to earth.Its not about education its about how you get along.some guys with zero education behave better than those with higher education.And just that you know you dont have to be like your parents because it happend to them.As long as your bf is doing what he can to bring bread at home then you are fine.There is a saying that says better eat bread and water with love than eat honey without love ok i just made it up but consider that.
I have a funny feeling that your “bf” is the one going to med school, and you’re the one who didn’t finish Junior high school
It doesn’t matter to me. And if it doesn’t matter to you, then who cares? As long as you two are happy, that’s all that matters. My husband took 5 years to graduate from high school, I went to college. It doesn’t matter at all. If I say something he doesn’t understand, then I simply explain it to him and we move on. Just because he didn’t learn something, doesn’t mean he is stupid. Stupid is being incapable of learning. I’ve taught him things and he has taught me things. It’s not like you two are going to break up because you want to argue with him about rocket science and he doesn’t understand it. For the most part, you will talk about things you both understand. Your parent’s most likely have communication issues and they are just blaming it on their differing education levels instead of dealing with the real problem.
your post: AT LEAST 15 errors.
where are you getting this prestigious MD? it’s offshore *somewhere,* that much is certain.
please leave your name so i know to request NEVER HAVING YOU as a physician.